CHRISTIAN SINGLE’S GUIDE TO PERSONALITY DISORDERS
WHICH CAUSE DEPRESSION FOR BOTH THE PERPETRATOR AND THEIR VICTIMS
Chapter 25 Warning- A Christian Single’s Dating Disaster:
Narcissism And Other Personality Disorders
The Dependent Personality Disorder
This is the personality disorder that doesn’t have the sharp
edge, the explosive rage, nor the unpredictability of the narcissist
and borderline, but the dependent is manipulative in a non-aggressive
way. He wants his parents to continue supporting him. She purposely
avoids learning how to make simple repairs in the home, and she
appears to be baffled with the intricacies of filling out papers, or
taking necessary documents to the tax preparer, and cannot take care
of the mundane tasks of life. Naturally, someone must step in and do
the work for the dependent person or teach them that they must take on
grown-up responsibilities. So be wise, Christian singles, when you
date someone who has trouble keeping or finding a job, or who depends
on parents to maintain his or her lifestyle. Soon they could be
depending on you!
Most dependent people suffer depression, feeling they might not be
able to rely on the kindness of others forever, and their dependence
does nothing for their self-respect. In fact, their depression
worsens, as they gradually convince themselves that they cannot take
care of themselves. Many dependent people I know use or abuse
anti-depressants. This is dangerous, because many also are addicted to
alcohol and other drugs, and the interaction can kill them, or drive
the depression even deeper.
The dependent is much like the borderline in that she does not want
to be alone, and fears abandonment, Love relationships are strained,
as she clings helplessly to her new beau, wanting him to “take care
of her” as if she were a child. In fact, in many ways, she is. Her
parents were overly protective, making her feel that she was safe only
with them, and that the world was waiting outside, ready to attack or
harm her. Christian singles, note that this over-protectiveness
demonstrates that children need to realize while there are dangerous
people she should avoid, most people are kind hearted and are no
threat to her. A middle ground should be stressed, so that the boy or
girl doesn’t fear everyone.
