CHRISTIAN SINGLE’S GUIDE TO PERSONALITY DISORDERS
WHICH CAUSE DEPRESSION FOR BOTH THE PERPETRATOR AND THEIR VICTIMS
Chapter 24. Narcissism: “I Love Me, I Love Me Not”
The Secret Life Of The Narcissist
One of the two middle-aged women I know who are, I believe,
malignant narcissists lies about her husband to her pastor, telling
him her husband is a control freak with psychopathic tendencies, when
in reality, this describes herself, instead! But she tries to impress
the pastor with her long-suffering attempt to save her marriage and
bring her heathen husband to the Lord. In reality, he is normal, and a
believer, but he stays in the marriage to protect their three year old
daughter from her fury. Her daughter from a previous marriage feared
her greatly, and at 18, she left home, finally having enough courage
to tell her mother “I’ve been terrified of you all my life and I’m
leaving for good.” The girl was very obedient, quiet, and she was
literally a slave, doing all the housework and everything she could do
to make her mother happy. Little did she know that it was impossible
to please her, and that her mother was incapable of loving her! When
asked if she was unhappy that her daughter left, she just shrugged and
said “I don’t care- she was never any good anyway.” There was no
sorrow, or anguish on her face as she said those words because there
never was any love for her daughter.
While people close to the malignant narcissist see the real person
behind the mask; violent, abusive, screaming, controlling, the
narcissist can be very deceiving to others; charming, playful, kind
and generous. This is the mask! Christian singles, beware if those
closest to your new love interest try to warn you! A good rule of
thumb is to see how this man or woman interacts with family members.
If no one in the immediate family wants to spend time with them, or if
the object of your affection never talks about family or says they’re
all impossible to get along with, this is a red flag. You could
understand it if one family member was a bad seed, but when the whole
family rejects him, or he rejects them, look out! A narcissist will
try to win your mother and dad over, with their seemingly sincere
appreciation and devotion for their child and they may dazzle your
friends, but your loved ones are only seeing the mask, and not the
violent, egotistical, control freak behind the mask. Here is a check
list of narcissistic tendencies
