CHRISTIAN SINGLES
GUIDE TO ONLINE DATING ADVICE
The First Signs Of A Malignant
Narcissist
1. Lies often and exaggerates about his qualifications,
education, or his past. This may be hard to prove, unless
you know his co-workers or family, but look for
discrepancies in what he tells you. Sometimes narcissists
will tell you one thing and moments later, say just the
reverse. If you bring up what they said before, they will
deny it or say you are mistaken, were not listening, or
they may even slip up and call you stupid! They can even
believe a false accusation they just made against you, and
fly into a fit, even though they know they just made it
up!
2. Rarely reminisces about his childhood, past
relationships, or reveals his innermost thoughts. He’s
sort of a blank, never revealing much about himself,
mysterious. After knowing him for a month, you don’t
really know him any better than when you first met. He may
have lapses in his memory, and will not recall many things
from his past, such as where he went to school, or where
he lived at any particular age. Since he’s the
consummate liar, however, he may try to fill in the
blanks.
3. He may not like watching TV or movies, may not care
for music and probably isn’t very interested in the
news, unless it affects his life in some way. To win your
favor, however, he will tolerate these things. Peek in his
direction to see if he is really interested and involved.
Ask him questions about important news stories or his
opinion about a well known person currently in the news.
See if he is aware of what’s going on around him.
4. He may feign interest in how you feel or what
interests you, but sometimes you notice that far-away
look, and if you are honest with yourself you will see
that he is bored with any subject that is not about
himself. However, the smallest compliment you give him
will be rewarded with his undivided attention. He thrives
on being told how intelligent, talented, good looking,
popular, creative, etc., etc., he is.
5. If you meet his family, watch how they interact, how
respectful he is to parents, how he gets along with
siblings, if he has any interest in grand parents, aunts,
uncles, neighbors. Generally, his siblings, cousins and
others will have nothing to do with him, but parents can’t
give up their love for him despite the cruelty and
deception he has heaped upon them. And they have a vain
hope that the “right mate” will miraculously transform
him, and maybe YOU are the one. This is selfishness on
their part because they are foisting upon an innocent
person the role of psychiatrist, and caretaker for someone
they could never control.
